Bakit Ba Ko Single?

I may have met you already, seen, have a conversation with you or haven’t yet. We may have been living in the same place or maybe you're currently on the other side of the earth. I might get to be with you today, tomorrow or the coming years ahead, and I would like to tell you that I am not looking for you yet. The transition from being a boy to becoming a man is an enormous task for me to do. It has a lot of responsibilities and preparations needed to take and put on to my shoulders. I need time to prepare likewise I need you to keep waiting. All these major decisions in my life now are getting tough and could results to bigger problems or greater success that will affect both of us in the next few decades. I need you to understand all of these to give you more courage and determination to keep on waiting until the time comes that we are both ready for each other. I am not saying that I’ve already become a man, honestly, I have made so much mistakes as of now. As part of thes...

October 31 na, malapit na naman ang Pasko, marami na namang maghhashtag SMP o magppost na kasama siya sa SMP o samahan ng malalamig ang Pasko. Marami tayong pwedeng makitang mga dahilan kung bakit single ang isang tao, at karamihan sa mga dahilan na to ang nagtutulak sa kanila na pumasok na lang basta sa relasyon na umaasa na mareresolba ng pakikipagrelasyon ang mga masasabi nating kakulangan nila. Narito ang ilan sa mga dahilan kung bakit single ang isang tao at samahan niyo ko na ipakita yung mga tamang solusyon dito na karamihan ay hindi pagpasok sa relasyon ang sagot: 1. Pangit kasi ako, maitim o mataba (Physical Appearance) Wala kasing nagkakagusto sakin, wala kasing nanliligaw sakin, walang nagpaparamdam, hindi nila ko type o kaya naman walang sumasagot sakin, lagi akong basted, walang gustong pumatol sakin, lahat ng ng negatibo na naisip ng isang tao tungkol sa sarile nasabi na. Ang itim ko kasi, kaya ang daming nagpapaputi ngayon. Ang taba, ang payat, at pandak, kaya madami...

It is not easy to remain single, though many people view singleness as weakness. Not everyone can stay single because there are lots of pressure and sometimes discrimination if you chooses to become one. Madaming tao kahit mga kaibigan mo o mga taong malapit sayo ang magpapabigat para pumasok ka sa relationship. If you know your priorities in life, it will add up to your courage. Isa sa mga katrabaho ko ang nagsabi na "The more na nagiging matured ka, the more na mas pipiliin mong maging single muna". Pero bakit madami pa din ang pinipili na lang sumabay sa agos at maghanap ng maghanap ng partner nila sa buhay? Kahit masaktan o kahit ang totoo naman is hindi pa talaga ready. Mahirap maging single dahil iba na ang tingin ng karamihan sa status or stage ng buhay na to. You can't blame them for what they are thinking because they once try to become single but because they have no courage they simply quit and go with the flow of this world. But the good thing about being si...

Yup, those words explains it all, that when a woman's appearance fades away, you will see if that man will still loves that particular woman. Love requires a lot of courage and maturity to deal with. If a woman allows a man to get into her life without considering if this man would love her after 50 years there is a big possibility that this same sweet and romantic man will simply leave her.

Kung wala mga immature na lalake ang atat na atat pumasok sa pakikipagrelasyon, de sana walang mga nagkakasakitang magkakasintahan sa mga panahon ngayon. Pasintabi sa mga kaPare at KakumPadre, ang mga tunay na lalake at sana'y tumanggap ng pagkakamale.

Love can wait, but time won't. When you spend the rest of your youth seeking, finding and trying to find a partner and not preparing for what's up ahead, you are wasting your time. Yes, you can still enjoy love in the midst of hardships due to unpreparedness, but you can truly enjoy it without too much pain if you could only wait, till time comes when you are ready. There is always time for everything. But if still you wants it harder, nobody can stop you.

Ang pinaka-pinagsimulan ng blog na to is yung post ko sa fb ko na "The Foolishness of a Youth" or most particularly my foolishness in entering immature relationship. That experience brought be to this point of eagerness and burden of sharing all the things that I've learned to help other youth una sa mga kapwa ko Pilipino and in God's grace buong mundo. Here it goes... Most of the youth today are foolishly falling into love and emotion without first prioritizing their own personal lives, improving themselves, and seeking maturity. I am quite sad and disappointed for young people who are still doing the same mistakes again and again. Being in love with someone is not a sin but being in love and seeking it in the wrong time even with all the guidance and warnings from others is foolishness. And foolishness is not a good thing. They are not only wasting their time but they are also wasting lots of opportunities a single individual can grab without too much conflict...